As I walked into Byron Katie’s book Loving What Is, I embraced her notion of “Staying in your own business.” She says:
“I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours, and God’s. (For me, the word God means “reality.” Reality is God, because it rules. Anything that’s out of my control, your control, and everyone else’s control—I call that God’s business.)”
Three kinds of business: mine, yours, and God’s.
“Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our own business. When I think “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,” I am in your business. When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God’s business.”
Where do I live my life? Do I live my business? After reading this I choked on the realization that I’m all over my husband’s business (o.u.c.h.) – oh well … at least I’m retired from Corporate life! Living outside my “business” shrunk that day!
“To think that I know what’s best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety, and fear. Do I know what’s right for me? That is my only business. Let me work with that before I try to solve your problems for you.”
Do I know what’s right for me?
Over the past few weeks as I moved out of my business – with my husband, at the yoga or dance studio, the grocery; I stopped and watched my thought. I reminded myself that wasn’t my business; and let the thought go. Remarkably I felt lighter, liberated; softer. And curious about what’s right for me.
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“Be well, my dear one, be safe, my love, live in joy and peace, sweet friend.” ― Martha Beck; Diana, Herself
