Imagine . . . A Future Worth Living

Homo Deus; A Brief History of Tomorrow, by Yuval Noah Harari

“Each and every one of us has been born into a given historical reality, ruled by particular norms and values, and managed by a unique economic and political system.  We take this reality for granted, thinking it is natural, inevitable and immutable. 

“We forget that our world was created by an accidental chain of events, and that history shaped not only our technology, politics and society, but also our thoughts, fears and dreams.

“The cold hand of the past emerges from the grave of our ancestors, grips us by the neck and directs our gaze towards a single future.  We have felt that grip from the moment we were born, so we assume that it is a natural and inescapable part of who we are.

“Therefore we seldom try to shake ourselves free, and envision alternative futures.”

 

We can’t know how tomorrow will look.  Before Model T’s showed up few believed the horse-drawn carriage would disappear.  Or 25 years ago in Blockbuster’s heyday, who knew they’d vanish – and we’d have #NetflixAndChill?  What’s next?  Land lines, keys; cash?  Who’s next?  Cashiers, taxi drivers; the mail man?

No doubt someone’s screaming that we’re losing the precious good ‘ole days!  Good for who?  Him?  Her?  You?  Me?  Nostalgic longing.  Think – were those days really happy?  Or is that just a story we tell ourselves?

When I reflect on how humanity is simply subjective experience – and what that actually means, I can fall into a funk – in a hurry.  Mostly though I’m swept up with everyone else and believe the story of today.  Stories give us meaning; they unite us.  Yuval Noah Harari says: “All large-scale human cooperation is ultimately based on our belief in imagined orders.”

Let’s imagine what lies around the corner . . .

If we must have our stories . . . let’s dream big and envision an alternative future worth living.

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“The past gives you an identity and the future holds the promise of salvation, of fulfillment in whatever form. Both are illusions.” – Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

IMAGINE – John Lennon

If It’s Meant to Be, It’ll Be . . . Acceptance Or Abdication?

How many times have I said this?  If it’s meant to be, it’ll be.”  A friend and I recently acknowledged our use of this magical phrase as a way to side-step the hard work.  It’ll happen if it’s meant to be . . . Me DO something?  Why?

Yes – on occasion acceptance of things I can’t control is appropriate.  Do I have the wisdom to know the difference between the things I can change and those I can’t?  There’s a prayer for that!

The hard work – courage.

How many times has self-labeling kept me stuck?  Or allowed me to take a pass?  In conversations with my “pessimistic” friends I claim to see the “glass as half-full” – or that I “wear rose-colored glasses.”  Does my preference for being an optimist keep me from participating in the “real world?”  Then, when the “real world” shows up is that why I’m gob-smacked?

Being willing to do the hard work means I’m willing to challenge my perceptions; perceptions of my personal beliefs, my circumstances; the society in which I live.  Some perceptions provide armor in a tough world; some provide excuses – or explanations.  Some are authentic.  If I never look, I’ll never know.  If I never know, can I truly be happy?

 

Recently my Flipboard Newsfeed brought the Feb 2016, Time Magazine article Doing These 4 Things Will Make You Happier, According to Neuroscience by Eric Barker.  Neuroscience and brain research fascinate me – people who make is accessible to non-experts are remarkable.

What a great piece – who wouldn’t want to know simple, scientifically proven steps to happiness?  I shared it widely among my friends.  For those who aren’t brain research aficionados; I share Barker’s cliff notes:

“Here’s what brain research says will make you happy:

  • Ask, “What am I grateful for?” No answers? Doesn’t matter. Just searching helps.
  • Label those negative emotions. Give it a name, and your brain isn’t so bothered by it.
  • Go for “good enough” instead of “best decision ever made on Earth.”
  • Hugs, hugs, hugs. Don’t text — touch.”

Opening myself to the real world, having an attitude of gratitude – labeling those pesky negative emotions help me participate and contribute.  Releasing my perfectionist ways and simply taking action reduces the rationalized paralysis.  The best – Hugs!!  Being heart-to-heart with those closest to me, vulnerable and accessible, bring the biggest rewards.

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“If most of us remain ignorant of ourselves, it is because self-knowledge is painful and we prefer the pleasures of illusion.” ― Aldous Huxley

Saturn in Capricorn – Wassup

Last December it caught my attention that Saturn was moving out of Sagittarius into Capricorn.  Saturn was in Sagittarius when I was born and again during a massive life changing period (for me) 28 years ago.  It takes 28-29 years for Saturn to come full circle – spending ~2-1/2 years in each sign.  Saturn is an important planet.  It represents the lessons we have to learn – cycles of achievement and maturity; personally and collectively.  According to Wikipedia, Saturn “heralds a new phase in the aging process when new realities and responsibilities must be faced.”

This transit may not come again for me . . . ever; or at least until I’m very old.

Astrology once had my full attention – prompting me to have my natal chart professionally cast 28 years ago.  Everything was mapped . . . the position of planets by sign and house at the time of my birth; planetary aspects; Ascendant, Descendent, Midheaven and Nadir of my chart – the whole shebang.  Back then knowing my potentialities comforted me as I tackled those internal and external obstacles.

Comforted me until I found out I had no “Final Dispositor!”  At that time I interpreted this to mean “I’d have a hard time making up my mind or choosing a path of action.”  I was Doomed!!

Bullshit.  I folded up all those papers that represented hours of research, reading, pouring over diagrams and making notes.  Put ‘em in a folder and stuck ‘em on a shelf.

Hell No – no soothsayer was gonna to tell me I was doomed to flounder!  Recalling the lines from a poem I learned as a kid (Invictus, by William Ernest Henley):

“I am the master of my fate,

      I am the captain of my soul.”

I’m not so defiant these days.  Today I know… that I don’t know what I don’t know!  And that there’s a lot of it.  Quantum physics teaches us that things transform simply by being observed.  Our biology and brains reveal uncharted frontiers.  Potentialities based on the position of the universe when I was born, may or may not be valid.  But if I look and see the potentiality within, I just might transform something.  As a framework for self-examination – this is an interesting doorway.

According to Café Astrology, this stage will last until the end of 2020.  For this Sagittarian (whose house Saturn just left) it’s a practical time.

The purpose of this transit is for you to make the connection between your own feelings of self-worth and what you produce in the real world/get back from the real world.”

“The challenge here is to capture the newly found and defined self-confidence you gained from the first house transit, and now apply it in the real world. You are worth something, and you deserve compensation for what you do.”

Saturn occupies the sign of Capricorn from December 19, 2017, to March 21, 2020; and then finishes up its transit from July 1 to December 17, 2020.

Dec 19, 2017  11:49 PM  EST Saturn enters Capricorn

Mar 21, 2020    11:58 PM  EDT Saturn enters Aquarius

Jul  1, 2020      7:37 PM  EDT Saturn Rx enters Capricorn

Dec 17, 2020    12:04 AM  EST Saturn enters Aquarius

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“I don’t believe in astrology; I’m a Sagittarius and we’re skeptical.” – Arthur C. Clark

Empty the Bowl

“The glassblower knows: while in the heat of beginning, any shape is possible.  Once hardened, the only way to change is to break.” – Mark Nepo

This is the message from my yoga teacher at the last two classes I attended.  She asked us to approach our practice with a “beginners mind” – the place of all possibility.  Imagine the mind as an empty bowl – ready to be filled again.  Every time my mind fills with thoughts that take me away from now; let them go.

Those thoughts – they keep me chained to my ego.  They harden me.  The need to be right – to believe that the miniscule sliver of knowledge I possess is better, more important; superior to anything anyone else may know or believe.  It’s easy to harden; to think I’m all that.  A rigid stance must break if real change is desired.

Imagine a better way.  Imagine staying teachable, pliable.  Consider that the image I hold about myself and the world is an illusion.  Can I be the glass in the heat of beginning?

Change happens; whether accepted or ignored.  Staying attuned; in harmony with change is the challenge.  Because I know what’s “supposed” to happen right?  EGO, EGO, EGO.

Empty the bowl . . .  When change arrives, maybe I won’t crack.

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“Try not to resist the changes that come your way.  Instead let life live through you.  And do not worry that your life is turning upside down.  How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?” – Rumi

Things Are Gonna Be Easier

It struck me this morning how brutally judgmental I can be toward my younger self.  Told some friends at lunch the other day that reading through my 30-year old journals was exhausting … as the old me was a sad and pathetic character.  They laughed at my melodrama – but HELL, I was being serious.  It would be better if I wrapped a mental arm around that hot young mess and told her everything was going to be okay.  Instead I’m shaking my head and rolling my eyes.  Harsh.

My journal review project is showing me that I fell down over and over AND OVER again.  Newsflash!  I will fall down again.  In those days my youthful optimism – or artless gullibility, propelled me forward.  Every face plant gave way to a new scheme from new age mysticism, religious devotion to psychological theories.

I was that child’s clown bop bag – always popping back up.  A rebound for every fall.  Luck, grace or providence spared me, as the extent of my recklessness; willful or unwitting, was epic.

Frankly I should celebrate that rookie.  Despite her recklessness, she was relentless.  Every reinvention; every time I affirmed the Emerson Rule; morphing myself as I absorbed new information, brought me here to today.

Will I look back twenty years from now at today’s hot grandma mess?  Will I applaud or jeer my discomfort at being the oldest dancer in the Rebel Fitness class?  Insecurity is a sneaky critter.  That committee between my ears gets squirrely seeing my shocking head of white hair in the mirror – or the iridescent ear plugs!  No, I don’t kick as high, or squat as low as the twenty-somethings!  I may feel awkward for a minute, but not for long.  I’ve learned a few things by now – and know that my confidence is just napping.

Things are definitely gonna be easier …

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“… we are well advised to keep on nodding terms with the people we used to be, whether we find them attractive company or not.” – Joan Didion