What You Feel Is What You Attract

“Don’t be so predictable.”

Pema Chodron – Compassion Cards; teachings for awakening the heart in everyday life

When I pulled this card out of the pack – to see what the Universe wanted me to meditate about; my first reaction was to put it back and pick another card.  Surely I checked the “don’t be predictable” box!

No.  Stop.  Think.  I’m asking the Universe to provide insight.  Theoretically using these cards opens my mind; pokes at my perceptions – encourages mindfulness.

Hmmmm…. do I know more than the Universe?  Right.  Pretty predicable.

 

In his book Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, Dr. Joe Dispenza connects quantum science, habitual thinking and behavior, brain physiology and meditation – to unleash our power to substantially change.  If I want my life to be different I must change my “beliefs about the nature of reality.”

“Until you break from the way you see your present reality, any change in your life will always be haphazard and transitory.”

Don’t be so predictable.

I could say – hey, I’m good with who I am and what I believe.  But then if I complain about being left behind, or hate that the world’s changing around me in ways I don’t like – then maybe the “I’m good” is a lie.

“How we think and how we feel produces a state of being, which generates an electromagnetic signature that influences every atom in our world.

“So if we want to change some aspect of our reality, we have to think, feel, and act in new ways; we have to “be” different in terms of our responses to experiences.  We have to “become” someone else.  We have to create a new state of mind . . . we need to observe a new outcome with that new mind.”

This new way of being creates an altered electromagnetic field to power my world – all the molecules, particles and bits.  This field will pull me toward a new reality; or help that reality find me.

According to Dr. Joe, when we “mentally rehearse a desired experience via thought alone, you will experience the emotions of that event before it has physically manifested.”  Meditating can help change how we think, feel and act.

“When you begin to feel like some potential future reality is happening to you in the moment that you are focusing on it, you are rewriting your automatic habits, attitudes and other unwanted subconscious programs.”

Maybe a new electromagnetic field of reality can jolt me out of my furious, annoyed and thoroughly appalled frame of mind about the political landscape.  I certainly could use some re-jiggering in my brain on this topic.

It will certainly take more than the power of positive thinking.  More than just wishful musing.  It will require a real shift in my emotional center – insist my psyche be stunned, flabbergasted – dumbfounded even.

Okay – so I meditate.  For weeks.  Patiently, eagerly; watchfully.

It fascinates me how my revelations come; the mechanisms for my astonishment and wonder.  This time it was delivered through “the long read” on April 5th in The Guardian: the demise of the nation state.

“After decades of globalisation, our political system has become obsolete – and spasms of resurgent nationalism are a sign of its irreversible decline. By Rana Dasgupta”

This article brought similar emotions as when I read Yuval Noah Harari’s Sapiens, and how I feel now reading his book Homo Deus.  Understanding and appreciating history – connecting the dots to arrive at today’s state of affairs; can be disturbing, enlightening, exhausting and wholly liberating.

Today’s political paradigm is maybe 100 to 300 years old.  In the grand scheme of infinity and eternity – we’re a speck, a dot . . . a dab.  What I think, what our world leaders think, is all made up.  Made up in our minds, our habits; our beliefs and opinions.  Things WILL change.  Probably dramatically – and in spectacularly unfathomable ways.

In my own, singular way I can change – so I connect with those around me; move the dialog positively – contribute with actions that elevate.  Quit being so pissed off.   Stop.  Think.  Don’t be so predictable.

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“Memory is useful because it gives us a sense of continuity. But memory is also imprisoning because it conditions us in predictable ways.” – Deepak Chopra

Saturn in Capricorn – Wassup

Last December it caught my attention that Saturn was moving out of Sagittarius into Capricorn.  Saturn was in Sagittarius when I was born and again during a massive life changing period (for me) 28 years ago.  It takes 28-29 years for Saturn to come full circle – spending ~2-1/2 years in each sign.  Saturn is an important planet.  It represents the lessons we have to learn – cycles of achievement and maturity; personally and collectively.  According to Wikipedia, Saturn “heralds a new phase in the aging process when new realities and responsibilities must be faced.”

This transit may not come again for me . . . ever; or at least until I’m very old.

Astrology once had my full attention – prompting me to have my natal chart professionally cast 28 years ago.  Everything was mapped . . . the position of planets by sign and house at the time of my birth; planetary aspects; Ascendant, Descendent, Midheaven and Nadir of my chart – the whole shebang.  Back then knowing my potentialities comforted me as I tackled those internal and external obstacles.

Comforted me until I found out I had no “Final Dispositor!”  At that time I interpreted this to mean “I’d have a hard time making up my mind or choosing a path of action.”  I was Doomed!!

Bullshit.  I folded up all those papers that represented hours of research, reading, pouring over diagrams and making notes.  Put ‘em in a folder and stuck ‘em on a shelf.

Hell No – no soothsayer was gonna to tell me I was doomed to flounder!  Recalling the lines from a poem I learned as a kid (Invictus, by William Ernest Henley):

“I am the master of my fate,

      I am the captain of my soul.”

I’m not so defiant these days.  Today I know… that I don’t know what I don’t know!  And that there’s a lot of it.  Quantum physics teaches us that things transform simply by being observed.  Our biology and brains reveal uncharted frontiers.  Potentialities based on the position of the universe when I was born, may or may not be valid.  But if I look and see the potentiality within, I just might transform something.  As a framework for self-examination – this is an interesting doorway.

According to Café Astrology, this stage will last until the end of 2020.  For this Sagittarian (whose house Saturn just left) it’s a practical time.

The purpose of this transit is for you to make the connection between your own feelings of self-worth and what you produce in the real world/get back from the real world.”

“The challenge here is to capture the newly found and defined self-confidence you gained from the first house transit, and now apply it in the real world. You are worth something, and you deserve compensation for what you do.”

Saturn occupies the sign of Capricorn from December 19, 2017, to March 21, 2020; and then finishes up its transit from July 1 to December 17, 2020.

Dec 19, 2017  11:49 PM  EST Saturn enters Capricorn

Mar 21, 2020    11:58 PM  EDT Saturn enters Aquarius

Jul  1, 2020      7:37 PM  EDT Saturn Rx enters Capricorn

Dec 17, 2020    12:04 AM  EST Saturn enters Aquarius

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“I don’t believe in astrology; I’m a Sagittarius and we’re skeptical.” – Arthur C. Clark

Empty the Bowl

“The glassblower knows: while in the heat of beginning, any shape is possible.  Once hardened, the only way to change is to break.” – Mark Nepo

This is the message from my yoga teacher at the last two classes I attended.  She asked us to approach our practice with a “beginners mind” – the place of all possibility.  Imagine the mind as an empty bowl – ready to be filled again.  Every time my mind fills with thoughts that take me away from now; let them go.

Those thoughts – they keep me chained to my ego.  They harden me.  The need to be right – to believe that the miniscule sliver of knowledge I possess is better, more important; superior to anything anyone else may know or believe.  It’s easy to harden; to think I’m all that.  A rigid stance must break if real change is desired.

Imagine a better way.  Imagine staying teachable, pliable.  Consider that the image I hold about myself and the world is an illusion.  Can I be the glass in the heat of beginning?

Change happens; whether accepted or ignored.  Staying attuned; in harmony with change is the challenge.  Because I know what’s “supposed” to happen right?  EGO, EGO, EGO.

Empty the bowl . . .  When change arrives, maybe I won’t crack.

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“Try not to resist the changes that come your way.  Instead let life live through you.  And do not worry that your life is turning upside down.  How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?” – Rumi

Things Are Gonna Be Easier

It struck me this morning how brutally judgmental I can be toward my younger self.  Told some friends at lunch the other day that reading through my 30-year old journals was exhausting … as the old me was a sad and pathetic character.  They laughed at my melodrama – but HELL, I was being serious.  It would be better if I wrapped a mental arm around that hot young mess and told her everything was going to be okay.  Instead I’m shaking my head and rolling my eyes.  Harsh.

My journal review project is showing me that I fell down over and over AND OVER again.  Newsflash!  I will fall down again.  In those days my youthful optimism – or artless gullibility, propelled me forward.  Every face plant gave way to a new scheme from new age mysticism, religious devotion to psychological theories.

I was that child’s clown bop bag – always popping back up.  A rebound for every fall.  Luck, grace or providence spared me, as the extent of my recklessness; willful or unwitting, was epic.

Frankly I should celebrate that rookie.  Despite her recklessness, she was relentless.  Every reinvention; every time I affirmed the Emerson Rule; morphing myself as I absorbed new information, brought me here to today.

Will I look back twenty years from now at today’s hot grandma mess?  Will I applaud or jeer my discomfort at being the oldest dancer in the Rebel Fitness class?  Insecurity is a sneaky critter.  That committee between my ears gets squirrely seeing my shocking head of white hair in the mirror – or the iridescent ear plugs!  No, I don’t kick as high, or squat as low as the twenty-somethings!  I may feel awkward for a minute, but not for long.  I’ve learned a few things by now – and know that my confidence is just napping.

Things are definitely gonna be easier …

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“… we are well advised to keep on nodding terms with the people we used to be, whether we find them attractive company or not.” – Joan Didion

 

This My Shit

My yoga teacher shared her experience attending a new (to her) class.  The unfamiliar instructor opened by sharing a vulnerability – then labeled it her “s.h.i.t.”  Throughout the session she invited everyone to observe if their practice was bringing up their own “bleep.”

My teacher was struck by her resistance to this perspective.  Why label a vulnerability as our bleep?  Certainly we have “sticky spots” – limitations.  Being vulnerable isn’t necessarily bad – isn’t bleep.  It just is.  We were encouraged throughout class to simply be with our vulnerability – see it; rest with it on the mat.  Let it be; hold it – allow it to teach us.

All the stories we tell about ourselves are what Pema Chodron calls a “fixed identity” in her book Living Beautifully with Uncertainty and Change.  We hold onto this identity as a safety net.  It allows us to accept how uncomfortable it is not knowing what’s around the corner in our lives.  We cling to what we know “for sure” – even when we don’t know jack.  Pema says this identity is:

“— a fixed view we have of ourselves as good or bad, worthy or unworthy, this or that.  With a fixed identity, we have to busy ourselves with tying to rearrange reality, because reality doesn’t always conform to our view.” 

We label ourselves – meeting the world armed with stories and identities.  Pema says:

“In Buddhism we call the notion of a fixed identity ‘ego clinging.’  It’s how we try to put solid ground under our feet in an ever-shifting world.  Meditation practice starts to erode that fixed identity.”

Meditation – sitting with my vulnerability on the yoga mat; allowing this discomfort; physical, mental, emotional, be my teacher.

“The purpose of the spiritual path is to unmask, to take off our armor.  When that happens, it feels like a crisis because it is a crisis—a fixed identity crisis.  The Buddha taught that the fixed identity is the cause of our suffering.”

Being in crisis is unsettling.  No wonder we cling to who we think we are – repeating those stories, cementing old habits.  Pema said that according to the brain scientist Jill Bolte Taylor:  “the physiological mechanism behind emotion … lasts about ninety seconds from the moment it’s triggered until it runs its course.”  If we let it run longer it’s because we choose to keep up the dialog.  To stop that chatter Pema suggests we:

     “Acknowledge the feeling, give it your full, compassionate, even welcoming attention, and even if it’s only for a few seconds, drop the story line about the feeling.  This allows you to have a direct experience of it, free of interpretation.  Don’t fuel it with concepts or opinions about whether it’s good or bad.  Just be present with the sensation.  Where is it located in your body?  Does it remain the same for very long?  Does it shift and change?”

Pema and my yoga teacher tell me to let these feelings be guides; my “gateway to liberation.”  Easier said than done.  But when I try . . . I do feel better.

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“Living is a form of not being sure, not knowing what next or how.  The moment you know how, you begin to die a little.  The artist never entirely knows.  We guess.  We may be wrong, but we take leap after leap in the dark.” – Agnes de Mille