Many odd and questionable adventures resulted from my vow to not be “that” old lady rocking on her porch regretting missed opportunities.
“I see it all perfectly; there are two possible situations — one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it — you will regret both.” ― Søren Kierkegaard, Either/ Or: A Fragment of Life
Still, there’s an old adage that claims people regret what they didn’t do more than what they did do. So I did – and continue to do … thankfully not in a rocking chair – but curious about how the cards are playing out with the hand I was dealt. I find myself mostly grateful, sometimes cranky – occasionally aware that grace intervened.
We choose – or choose to ignore stuff every day. Sometimes small seemingly inconsequential choices have deep repercussions. Turn left, turn right. Speak up, stay quiet. Choose.
Tuesday I adopted a new puppy – my first little boy. Two months ago it was just a spontaneous; okay – impulsive email about cute schnauzer pups. Now I’m telling my friend Margaret that being home all day is helping me teach him the best places to potty – outside! She responds: “a stay-at-home mom” – Hilarious; me, who never had or raised a kid. Was that all choice? Nah, just circumstance associated with lots of choices. Now my maternal instincts, what there are of them, are channeled to furry critters.
The rear view mirror of life gives me perspective on my deck of cards. Whichever way I go – or don’t go – the other choice disappears. Yearning for what isn’t may not be surprising – might even be normal, but doesn’t seem productive. Seeing the good my choices create feels better. This week – it’s Riley.
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell