Best Laid Plans of Mice and Men

Back in the day, my fancy for a neat and tidy calendar put a period on using pens. The flexibility I get penciling in my plans allows my neatnik bias.

Turns out this flexibility also recognizes the capricious nature of life. As Robert Burns expressed in his poem, the “best laid schemes o’ Mice an’ Men, oft go astray.”


Life happens and tomorrow isn’t promised. Sometimes a hard lesson to learn.

Discovering the secret on how to “roll with it” is surprisingly liberating. Instead of rigidly clutching a tradition, habit or belief, I can let it go; un-clench. Release the need to be perfect or proper. It’s healing and freeing just being me.

As Steve Winwood says – “Hang in and do that sweet thing you do.”


“The mental flexibility of the wise man permits him to keep an open mind and enables him to readjust himself whenever it becomes necessary for a change.”

— Malcolm X
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Which Way Did They Go George? A New Direction

“Cat: Where are you going?
Alice: Which way should I go?
Cat: That depends on where you are going.
Alice: I don’t know.
Cat: Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.”
― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland


Knowing the direction to point myself gives me a peaceful easy feeling.

But sometimes I have no idea which way to go – I’m upside down and sideways. Do I conform to social convention; which way did he go George? Do I rely on my intuition and higher self? Or can I balance the best of both?

Hearing what experts and my circle of support have to say often inspires me. When their input and my intuition align, full speed ahead. But when that alignment is absent, it’s awkward and unnerving. This is when I slow down; don’t make the big moves. Self-correction is easier when I take baby steps.

Thich Nhat Hanh’s fourth and fifth practices to feed happiness helps me when my spiritual compass is off kilter.

The fourth practice is concentration. Stay in the present moment – away from obsession, past or future. Slow down and contemplate the moment; get in touch with the quiet voice within.

The fifth practice is insight. Mindfulness buds when I stay present, releasing tension. Concentrating on my breathing, or the beauty of the lake and the birds singing, makes room for insights.

These insights show remedies for my confusion; provide a roadmap that’s right for me. The route may be energizing and uplifting; or a gnarly, murky, dark alleyway. Either way, I keep moving. On the other side is peace, joy and happiness.


“The greatest thing in this world is not so much where we stand as in what direction we are moving.”

― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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Ima Do It – ‘Cause Baby I’m Worth It

Having courage means I can do something that frightens me. Bravery isn’t fearlessness. The Star Trek crew boldly went “where no man has gone before” but they never claimed to be casual about it. Being daring and courageous steps me outside my comfort zone.


It’s weird what makes me prickly though. At least until I find its source. Like when I quit dying my hair. I was nervous how other students in my hip-hop class would view me. And my first blog post was a real nail biter. Acceptance and fitting in are basic incentives to mask up and hide out.

The quality of my problems today is higher than it once was. Habits and beliefs I want scuttled now helped me survive hardships and overcome obstacles. They’re part of my arsenal – and not readily surrendered.

However, when I see how clutching an opinion brings sorrow and adversity, I might want to let it go. Too often it takes a hard bottom to motivate change. It’s been said that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.” Bring on the willingness please.

Once willing and action taken, the roughest bits fall away. Then it’s time to bring out the fine sandpaper to whittle and sculpt that onion. Maybe for the rest of my life.

To put myself forward, outside the safe space I know is truly the best way to live.

Find that anxiety – determine if it’s real, or some version of deception. Do that thing that makes butterflies churn the stomach. It’s worth it. I’m worth it.


“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”

― George Bernard Shaw
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Listen – Very – Carefully – FEED HER

Entertaining myself on TikTok, I found a guy sharing his “Dad’s” advice. He expressly instructs said son to “Listen. Very. Carefully.” The advice is often about how to treat women better – and to FEED HER, which I find highly amusing.

@thisisshetty

Posting without bg music ITS MY OWN VOICE . 😒 *Repost. ( FEED HER ) #dad #son #women #men

♬ original sound – Shetty

Listening to experts, family and friends; getting advice from trusted elders – are excellent ways to gain knowledge and wisdom.

The phrase though — “Listen. Very. Carefully.” — inexplicably inspires me to mind my intuition and listen to my inner voice. This voice appreciates silence; rests in the bird’s song and the wind blowing. This voice has treasures only I can hear.

Routinely it feels like the outside world is in my face. Broadcasting on TV, through social media and ubiquitous marketing. All here at my invitation.

When I open my life to busy, eventful and stimulating crazy; I must balance it with sanctuary and rest to maintain my calm.

Undisturbed quiet time lets me receive the deep and intimate messages from my higher self. Extended periods of time are appreciated, but not necessary. A daily 20-minute meditation serves me well; and a simple 5-minute breather works in a pinch.

Listen . Very . Carefully . FEED HER.

@thisisshetty

“Handful of tacos is better than handful of none” – #Dad #son #women #men

♬ original sound – Shetty

“At every step, she paused, withdrew to the inner sanctuary, and asked herself, Does this feel right? Her answer came in the form of peace or tension. If she felt tension, she stepped a different way. If she felt peace, she kept going forward.” ― Donna Goddard, Circles of Separation

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To Fast or Not to Fast – Worth a Look

Last fall I was inspired to check out intermittent fasting. My Covid belly was bothering me; it was time to act. After reading a few articles I started to experiment with the 16:8 method. It was an easy add to my daily routine.

Of course, I supplemented this new approach with my tried and proven practices; tracking what I eat, weighing myself and paying attention to what I put in my pie hole. Progress!

To be better informed on the concept of fasting, I found and ordered the book The Obesity Code by Jason Fung, MD. It took several months to crack it open, but once I did – so enlightening. Also checked in with my doc – good sounding board.

My perceptions about food and diet are influenced by many books I’ve read over a 30-year period.

Today, reading Dr. Fung and his theory about insulin levels and intermittent fasting makes so much sense. I particularly relate to his candid assertion: “Maximum weight loss occurred at six months, with gradual regain thereafter.”

My brother once observed that I was “on a diet since I was 13.” He wasn’t wrong. I would lose .. then gain. Lose .. gain. Rinse, repeat. Hence my continued nutrition search.

Dr. Fung’s five basic steps in weight loss lines up with what I already accept as true. A few tragic particulars I resist – because I simply don’t want to change (yet).

  1. “Reduce consumption of added sugars.”
    • Sucrose & HFCS are exceptionally fattening
  2. “Reduce consumption of refined grains.”
    • White flour = nutritionally bankrupt
  3. “Moderate your protein consumption.”
  4. “Increase consumption of natural fats.”
    • Full fat dairy = yes
    • Dietary fat is least likely to stimulate insulin
    • Use virgin olive oil
  5. “Increase consumption of protective factors; fiber, vinegar.”

My recent insight comes from considering “meal timing.” It’s not just “what we eat.” Understanding the impact of insulin, insulin-resistance and how they influence my health is new to me.

Dr. Fung says insulin is what makes us fat. “To break the insulin-resistance cycle, we must have recurrent periods of very low insulin levels.” In his book he outlines different fasting types which do just that:

  • “Intermittent fasting involves fasting for shorter periods of time on a regular basis. Shorter fasts are generally done more frequently. Some people prefer a daily sixteen-hour fast, which means that they eat all their meals within an eight-hour window.”
  • “Longer fasts are typically twenty-four to thirty-six hours, done two to three times per week.”
  • “Prolonged fasting may range from one week to one month.”

Dr. Fung also tells us that: “Fasting follows feasting. Feasting follows fasting. Diets must be intermittent not steady. Food is a celebration of life.”

There can be freedom to live a full life and flow in and out of the methods he recommends. But, “the bottom line is that fasting is something we can do, and that we should do.”


“Everyone can perform magic, everyone can reach his goals, if he is able to think, if he is able to wait, if he is able to fast.”

– Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha
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